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Q: I’m a father of 3 kids who doesn’t spend enough time
with my kids. My wife is a stay-at-home mom so I support
the family financially while she tends to the children. We
have a daughter, 11, and two sons, 8 and 6. None of the kids
gravitate toward me, even though I’m home by 7 p.m. every
day and work from home on the weekends. Is there anything
I can do to make them love me more and want to spend time
with me? My wife definitely has the upper-hand since she
gets them ready for school, drops them off, picks them up
and is home with them right after school until I get home.
She also prepares all their meals and takes them to soccer
practice on the weekends. What steps can I take to make sure
they love us both equally?
A: “Glam Mom”
You’re so lucky to have such an excellent wife.
It sounds like you have a strong marriage and the
working dad who has always been the provider is
ready to take the next step. Your children may just
be used to the structured routine and don’t think
you can take some time to spend with them. Surprise
them, show up early, drop them off or pick them up at
school. When you’re at home, try hard to disconnect
from work so you can play games, watch a movie,
listen to their cool music or simply be available.
Talk to your wife and tell her how you feel; she may
have some good ideas. Children gravitate to mom
or dad depending on their age and developmental
needs. They usually lean toward the parent they feel
will listen to them versus hear them out. Start by
listening, have more conversations, and find things
you have in common. Tell them you want to spend
more time with them, ask them what they would like
to do on weekends. Your children will have learned
through your time and dedication that they are loved
indefinitely, unconditionally and equally by both
mom and dad. By the way, your wife is very lucky to
have found you, too!
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