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Q: I consider myself to be a great mother but lately
I’ve been wondering if I went wrong at some point. I have
an elementary school-aged son and daughter and I’ve
recently noticed that my son is very effeminate and my
daughter is a bonafide tomboy. Is there anything I can
do as a parent to steer them in the right direction so they
more properly blend into their respective genders? I am
currently in the process of a divorce due to an abusive
marriage and am seeking sole custody of my children, so
I don’t expect their father to be in the picture.
Debut Key Biscayne resident Stefano Diaz recently participated in the WGC-CA
Championship as a course reporter for The First Tee Program. Diaz was
asked to cover the tournament as well as a wide variety of topics involved
with it. During the tournament, Diaz posted entries to his own blog on
PGAtour.com and gained insight into what it’s like to cover a professional
golf event. He also interacted with golf media, caddies and participated in
a question-and-answer session with the players. Diaz even made it onto
Jack Nicklaus’ website during the shooting of a TV commercial for The
Royal Bank of Scotland’s advertising campaign that features Nicklaus
instructing young golfers. What a way to make his debut!
“If women want to be like men and
come down to our level, that’s fine.”
— Mel Gibson
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Your concern for your children tells me you are
already a great mother. Being in an abusive relationship
may be the reason you are having such doubts. Children
behave the way they do because they seek attention.
Your son may need male role models with whom to bond
with. They should spend time with him watching sports,
throwing a baseball or washing the car. Your daughter’s
tomboy behavior may just be an indication she enjoys
playing sports. Make time to do girly things like taking
her shopping or going to the beauty salon. The way
your children are demonstrating their preference is
not as important as their mental health and emotional
stimulation. Have conversations with your child about
the role you expect from them; let them express their
likes and dislikes so you can anticipate how to best guide
them. If they’re picked on by others, teach them how to
stand up for themselves. If they are teased, make sure
you take the matter to the school principal. I recommend
you empower them, build their self-esteem, love them
and guide them unconditionally.
› Lisette N. Beraja of Beraja Counseling Center is a Licensed
Marriage and Family Therapist with over 10 years of experience
working with children, adults, couples and families. If you
have a question you’d like answered in a future edition of Key
Biscayne Magazine, email it to Lisette@Beraja.com or Editor@
KeyBiscayneMag.com. Due to high volume, we will not be able
to respond to all submissions. All names will be withheld to
ensure the privacy of our readers.
Like fingerprints, everyone’s
tastebuds come together
to form their own unique
pattern on the tongue.
When Julia Tuttle created
Miami, she became the first
and only woman (so far) to
plan a U.S. city.