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February has Valentine’s Day, exploding with roses and chocolates.
March ushers in good old St. Paddy’s, with possibly even more appealing
beer and — er, more beer. But it seems that when it comes to holidays,
April’s “special” days are more about surviving than celebrating. Here are
our tips on how to get through April’s rough spots relatively unscathed.
Does the thought of landing on a fart cushion have
you stressed out beyond belief at work? Just hope
somebody hasn’t also swapped those happy pills
for laxatives in a moronic attempt at good ol’ April
Fool’s humor. Your best bet for getting through
this one intact is to ship the kids off to school,
call in sick, and spend the rest of the day happily
watching movies in your pajamas.
Ahh, Easter…the holiday where children
yearn to be stuffed with sugary treats
and your family expects you to pretend
to get along with them for an extra-long
dinner. And we all know how easy it is to
get along when you have to shout at them
over your kids bouncing off the walls. Try
swapping those sugary treats for a few of
their favorite savory snacks, and maybe
you’ll live to see the fireworks on July 4.
“I would have never believed he could do
something like this,” says Liza about her husband
of 11 years having a 20 month-long affair with
another woman. “I don’t want a divorce, but at
the same time, I don’t know how I will ever go
beyond him having sex with another woman
and bringing this other person into our lives.
The little regard he had for me and the children;
the way he lied and would have let it still go on
had I not discovered the truth. How can I trust
him again? How can I forgive him?” As Liza’s
comments illustrate, infidelity is a terrible thing.
Extramarital affairs call into question whether
or not there is true love in the marriage. Even
when a couple is able to hold the relationship
together, the infidelity often damages love and
trustworthiness. It’s extremely important to seek
help from a therapist and talk about things like:
1.) Giving each other the chance to rebuild trust
over time; 2.) Allowing for human mistakes; 3.)
Understanding where your marriage needed more
attention; 4.) Allowing for reliable giving and
caring by the spouse who cheated; 5.) Avoiding
chronic anxiety and grudges to allow for healing.
Yes, an affair is terribly damaging to a marriage,
but doesn’t necessarily mean the end of the
relationship. Through the work of forgiveness
and reconciliation, love and trust can often be
restored, many times allowing intimacy to grow
stronger than ever.
L isette N.
› psychotherapist, Beraja LMFT, is a and
If you don’t already celebrate Apr. 7, you
may not be aware that it is “No Housework
Day” — otherwise known as the only
bright spot in April’s otherwise sour
holiday lineup. Stop that lawnmower and
put aside the vacuum…today you get to
relax by treating yourself to a real day
off. Wondering how to get through this
one? Start with a few margaritas and a
trashy romance novel!
founder of Beraja Counseling
Center. She’s been providing
guidance and counseling to
individuals, families and couples
for more than 10 years. She’s also
a Florida Supreme Court Family
Mediator and an 11 th Judicial
Court approved Parenting Coordinator. For a consultation,
visit BerajaCounseling.com or call 305.858.7763.
“You’re only given a little
spark of madness.
You mustn’t lose it”
— Robin Williams
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