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Q: I want to do something really special for the entire family
this Valentine’s Day. My college-aged daughter just broke up
with her boyfriend over the holidays and she’s been really
down. It was so bad that she’s taken a semester off to come
live back at home for a little while. What are some tactics I can
use and things we can do together as a family to ensure that
she has a special Valentine’s Day with mom and dad without
embarrassing her or making her remember her ex?
A: It’s normal for young adults to have difﬁcult times,
Roses are Red...
Although the famous poem would have you thinking otherwise, all roses
are not red. In fact, besides carnations, they are one of the few ﬂowers
on Earth available in more than a dozen varieties. Below are a few of the
most popular rose colors and what they may signify to the receiver.
Red: This romantic ﬂower signiﬁes passionate love
and erotic respect. A single rose means “I love you”… a
thornless rose implies “love at ﬁ rst sight.” Either way,
this ﬂower means business…and pleasure.
Pink: The second-most popular rose color translates
into friendship. This ﬂower is given when a subtle
thank-you is in order or when a friend needs a scented
pick-me-up after going through a tough time.
Yellow: Baring the universal color of “I care,” a yellow
rose can bring joy to even the most dismal amongst us.
The color represents joy and hope, two things we’re all
in need of on a regular basis.
White: This one is best used for family members and
neighbors. Translating into purity and innocence, no
one will take a dozen of these the wrong way. The only
time these become romantic is when they’re used to
spruce up the wedding décor.
especially having to do with relationships. It is normal for
her to feel sad, alone, and not wanted, but it should not stop
her from picking herself up and being reminded about her
future aspirations and goals. Firstly, don’t encourage her to
drop off a semester. That will only give her more free time
to feel miserable. This might be a good opportunity for her
to transfer to an excellent local university. Guide her and
re-focus her on her purpose in life, her goals of becoming a
professional and ﬁ nishing her career. Focus this Valentine’s
Day on the love of having each other as a family. Do the
family activities she enjoyed most before she left to college.
Maybe volunteer to do a good deed at your nearby church,
synagogue or school. Lift her spirit by telling her what an
incredible young lady she has become. I always remind my
young female clients to not be discouraged about breaking
up with their boyfriends. Mostly, I emphasize that if they
often break up and get back together, it truly is not a healthy
relationship. It is possible they were not in love to begin
with and just got used to one another. As a parent, your
daughter still needs your input and guidance. Aren’t you
blessed she can count on you for a shoulder to lean on? That
alone makes Valentine’s Day a special occasion.
Lisette Beraja of Beraja Counseling Center is
a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist
with more than 10 years of experience
working with children, adults, couples
and families. If you have a question you’d
like answered in a future edition of Key
Biscayne Magazine, email it to Editor@
KeyBiscayneMag.com or Lisette@Beraja.
com. Due to high volume, we will not be able to respond to all
submissions. All names will be withheld to secure the privacy of
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The most popular gift on Valentine’s
Day isn’t roses or dinner, it’s a box
of chocolates. Kind of makes you
wonder why gorging on the tasty
treats is so romantic.
Among all age groups, Hersey’s Kisses
are the candy most associated with
Valentine’s Day. They are even more
popular than those chalky Conversation
Candies with the cheesy phrases.
If you want to show the love of your
life that you’ve been sharpening
your creativity skills, ink a poem on
your hand this Valentine’s Day and
show them how you really feel.