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I t’s November, which means that sinking feeling in your stomach is actually
your body trying to warn you that the holidays are just around the corner.
Of course, we all love the parties, the gifts — both giving and receiving
— and for some of us, the time spent with family. For others, that time with
family falls firmly into the “stressors” category, along with the money spent
on gifts, the time and organizing required for all those parties, and a whole
host of other demands on our time and energy that we don’t see at any other
time of the year. To keep yourself (and your loved ones) healthy and sane this
holiday season, here are a few helpful tips:
1.) Don’t say yes to every invitation, unless you honestly have the time for
them. It’s okay to turn down going to your third cousin’s office party. If
anyone is annoyed at you about it, they’ll forget about it in a week.
It Takes Two
“You can’t do it alone,” I say to my married couples.
Couples tend to forget or take for granted that they
have each other and that they both play a significant
role in a marriage. Marriage is the ultimate team
sport. It’s a game you need to work at constantly
in order to win, without hogging the ball. When
I say “game” I refer to having a common goal, a
purpose. Marriages work best when a husband and
wife are teammates. When I refer to “hogging the
ball,” I want you to think of your spouse, too, not
just yourself. In working with couples, one of the
biggest complaints I hear is when one spouse always
wants to be in control, dominating the relationship,
making most of the decisions, while the other spouse
just sits on the bench waiting to be called. After
a while of waiting, it can destroy a marriage. The
other spouse feels less important, not part of the
decision-making. Teamwork is crucial so that BOTH
spouses can work together on decisions, setting
common goals, and yes, on overcoming challenges.
If a couple has a child or wants to start a family,
that yields even more reasons to work together. I
always say that the foundation in a home is having
a strong couple relationship so you can parent
together and in the future the siblings can get along.
If the couple is not strong, counseling is highly
recommended. Otherwise problems arise causing
the couple to distance themselves and often search
for happiness outside the marriage. Teamwork can
accomplished what one alone cannot. Make a change
in your marriage, work together all the time!
› Licensed Marriage is a & Psychotherapist,
Family 2.) Shop online. It’ll save you hours of driving time, and you’ll easily be able to
compare prices and find the right deal.
3.) Don’t neglect your exercise routine and make sure you’re getting a full
night’s sleep. This works wonders.
4.) Stay on budget, whether you’re buying gifts or groceries. Remember that
what’s important isn’t how much you spend, or how ostentatious a table you
can set…it’s about spending time celebrating with those you love!
Therapist and Founder of Beraja
Counseling Center. For more than 10
years, she’s provided guidance and
counseling to individuals, families
and couples. She’s also a Florida
Supreme Court Family Mediator & 11th Judicial Court
approved Parenting Coordinator. For an appointment, call
305.858.7763 or visit BerajaCounseling.com.
“Do not go where the path
may lead, go instead where
there is no path and leave
— Ralph Waldo Emerson
22 Olive Air
The fate of Oregon’s capital city once
lay on a coin toss. In 1844, a flip of the
coin between the area’s first settlers
decided the name for the soon-to-be
municipality: heads for Portland, tails
In 1987, American Airlines managed
to save $40,000 by cutting one olive
out of each salad served in their
first-class seats. Just imagine what
they might have saved by cutting the
In 1954, the Guinness World Record
for beer drinking was set by an
Australian named Bob Hawke, who
drank 2.5 pints in a mere 11 seconds.
Twenty-nine years later, he was
elected Prime Minister.