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Compass FYI Dating Dilemma Q: Our 14-year-old daughter is starting to ask if she can invite boys over to the house. Although we know she’s too young to be dealing in serious relationships with the opposite sex, we’re trying to be supportive so she doesn’t resent us (or rebel) as her mother did at that age. Is there any advice you can give us to make this transition into the teen years smoother when it comes to boys, etc.? A: I love the fact she is asking you. It sounds like you’re an involved parent who wants to know how to communicate with your teen; and it may not be easy at times. Both parents need to be on the same page. At 14, the high school years, it’s common for girls to like boys. They tend to have crushes, want to be noticed more and are looking to “go steady.” I always tell parents to have the parties and “getties” at their house verses someone else’s. Instead of inviting one person, the guy she likes, it would be best to invite several friends. Find learning moments with your teen. Talk about what’s appropriated, accepted and consequences that can occur when a relationship gets out of hand or falls apart. They may be stuck in an emotionally and verbally abusive relationship and not know how to get out. With that in mind, signs to observe are irritability, sensitivity, distraction, texting or increased computer use. I always give teens a few words of wisdom when they admit to liking a guy. Just be really, really, really good friends so that the break-up isn’t as hard. Beautiful Book The definitive Key Biscayne coffee-table book is ready for its close- up! Veteran photographer Kiko Ricote turns his camera on the island in a 240+ page masterwork entitled Key Biscayne: Island Paradise. His breathtaking aerials and scenic shots as well as shots from the Mackle Family’s historical archive deliver a unique and aesthetically stunning collection of photographs that depict the island’s current and historical relationship to the water, its residents and the many visitors who make it a truly unique retreat. The best news is that the book is shipping in time for the holidays! Pre-order your copy today at KeyBiscayne.com for just $75. To learn more about the photographer and to see his online portfolio, call 305.448.3283 or visit Kikor.com. › Lisette N. Beraja of Beraja Counseling Center is a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Parent Coordinator with more than 10 years of experience working with families. If you have a question you’d like answered in a future edition, email it to Editor@KeyBiscayneMag.com or Lisette@ Beraja.com. Due to high volume, we will not be able to respond to all submissions. All names will be withheld to ensure the privacy of our readers. Fat City “I think one of the reasons Miami is dubbed “The Magic City” is because no one’s quite figured out what we have up our sleeve yet!” — Key Biscayne Magazine Editor-in-Chief Jorge Arauz 16 Pretty Dumb Chill Out Despite the fact that Miami has 79% more gyms and health clubs than the average city, Men’s Health deemed Miami the “Biggest Loser” in America when it comes to fitness and motivation levels. We came in dead last of the 50 metropolitan areas included. Travel & Leisure readers recently ranked Miami as having the most attractive people in America. We also came in as the 29 th dumbest in the same poll out of the 30 U.S. cities included in the survey. One has to wonder if the voters confused tourists with locals. Harris International just announced that according to their findings, Miami is the most laid-back city in America thanks to the ability of its residents to balance work and play. They did not take into account that many jobs in the city require RSVP’ing to a few parties a week.