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Success Sav v y
Yes, it’s possible to part ways amicably and with as little drama
as possible. Here Psychotherapist & LMFT Lisette Beraja of
Beraja Counseling Center offers some advice for folks on the
brink of divorce.
Divorce affects the lives of the grown-ups and children alike. A peaceful
divorce is often hard due to the different personalities of the parties involved.
One of the spouses may have anger issues, mental or personality disorders,
mood swings or simply has had an affair resulting in a deep wound for the
marriage. Couples at first are hesitant in finding help. It may not be until they
are sitting in their divorce attorney’s office that the question is raised, “Have
you tried marital counseling?” If the couple has not, most divorce attorneys
do suggest seeing someone before they contemplate a divorce. If the answer is
yes, oftentimes there is no hope in saving the marriage, but there’s also hope in
having a “Peaceful Divorce.” The Collaborative Divorce Process is an excellent
non-litigious approach to divorcing. I’ve been involved in several cases and the
process is miraculous. It involves a team approach of collaboratively trained
professionals which includes 2 lawyers, a neutral mental health professional
and a neutral financial professional. Everyone involved in the process has one
goal in mind: To get the divorce done as soon as possible in a non-litigious way.
When there are children involved, I help create a parenting plan that specifies
a detailed time-sharing. So is a peaceful divorce possible? Yes, as long as the
couple is able to put aside their anger and let a team of professionals help.
Lisette Beraja is a Psychotherapist, Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist &
Founder of Beraja Counseling Center. She’s also a Florida Supreme Court Family
Mediator and an 11th Judicial Court approved Parenting Coordinator. To set up an
appointment, call 305.858.7763 or visit BerajaCounseling.com.
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